Hey Let’s Have A Baby
It is time for the world to have a little Kelly…or Nick, but a little Kelly for sure.
May 2016 we decided to join the world of becoming parents. We had been together for 3 years and thought why not have a mini Kelly or Nick. How awesome would that be? Just think how much better the world would be if we had a little Kelly. ;) We could take our new little friend boating, to the farmers market and all the other things we love. Off the pill I went. For the first time, I downloaded an app to track my period and ovulation. I learned about ovulation. Yes, I am a female, but I never focused on what my body did monthly. Actually, I had been on the pill for so long I forgot all about my monthly aunt flow. I started taking vitamins daily. Started timing everything.
Talk about losing the romance. But when nothing was happening, I went to my OBGYN. In my mind, I should have gotten pregnant like that. Snap fingers. Or I assumed I would since neither my Mom or sister had any issues. Infertility never even crossed my mind. I am, for the most part, a healthy young lady. After meeting with OBGYN we started with getting me regular, taking some hormones to pop those eggs and timing everything. Still nothing. Infertility was popping up in my life now. During this whole time, Nick and I had a lot of conversations. A lot. It is funny when you are in deep life situations how you start looking at all the possibilities. Always trying to find that silver lining. 1. We can’t get pregnant. Well, I guess we could just live a life with nice vacations, Lululemon, Starbucks, and unlimited nachos. That isn’t a bad life. Right? 2. We could adopt. There are so many amazing kids out there that need a loving home. Google adoption and instantly became overwhelmed. Where do I even begin? 3. Try IVF? I always said I would never do IVF. If it came down to that, then I guess I wasn’t having a kid. From what I have heard kids are expensive. Like mucho dinero. Google IVF and discover it too is super costly. I read stories of people spending $30,000+ on IVF. WTF?!? That is a lot of money. Plus if kids are so expensive do I want to start that journey off being in debt?
It is weird how no one talks about infertility. Or maybe people do, and I just didn’t pay attention because until this time in my life it didn’t include me. However, all of a sudden my life was consumed by infertility. Infertility this, and infertility that. All I did was read or hear about people who got pregnant by eating certain foods, going to a naturopath, or the good'ol stop thinking about it and you will get pregnant. Everybody had a story of a person who tried for years and then one day pop a baby! Unfortunately for us all these stories and methods didn’t help. In fact, we were told the only shot we have at getting pregnant is IVF. The one thing I said nope not doing it. Cost way too much. There is no guarantee. I don't like the idea of injecting all those concoctions in my body. But that day we got news the first thing I did was pick up the phone and make an appointment with the University of Iowa Hospital & Clinics.
Out the window went all my reasons for not trying IVF. It is easy to talk about what you would do in a particular situation, but until you, yourself are in it you really have no idea how it will feel and how you'll act. Once I was told we probably will never ever get pregnant naturally and we had a good chance with IVF I knew what I had to do. I had to try. Wouldn't I regret it later in life if I didn't try? How sad would the world be without a little Kelly...or a Nick. I mean how much can it actually cost? We have good health insurance. I think. Health insurance might be one of the most confusing things on this planet. I talked to so many people trying to figure out what would be covered and what wouldn't. I like to think I am a smart person, but boy health insurance made me question that. If I can’t figure out my insurance, how am I going to figure out IVF??? Stay tuned for how I attempted to understand the IVF process.